A very close friend, one who can get away with saying just about anything to me, told me that troubled people are attracted to me because I am honest. I will listen to them, stand by them & help them fight their demons.
But there comes a point when those same people will turn on me & attack me because the same honesty that first appealed will call them out on their blind spots, will challenge them to address the real real issues, will not put up with bullshit.
So my friends, my true friends, are those who do not “need” me but who choose to spend time in my company, knowing who I truly am; knowing that I have faults & failings; knowing my true worth.
I need to learn to recognise the former group, not so I can avoid them, but so I can let them go without being damaged by them.